Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Open, willing... his.


Because I am open he knows what I am feeling.

Because he is so aware, he gives me exactly what I need.

Our relationship is new, and at this time most of it takes place on the phone and through texts, but even that is enough for him to be able to understand me, to read me as it were.

Yesterday when we were texting he wrote of the things he plans to do to and for me the next time we are together.  I shivered reading about how he would bind me with ropes and later trace the marks the ropes left on my breasts and thighs.  I typed back how I longed to experience that, to surrender to him further.

My words concerned him. He wrote that while he knew I wanted and needed more, didn’t I already feel my submission to him?  I told him I did.

And I do. But I know I am capable of more, desire more, need more.  And I know that he is someone with whom I can experience this so the ache is greater than I have ever known.

Because I was honest and open, and because he is as aware, strong and loving when we spoke on the phone later that evening he gave me exactly what I needed and craved.

“Are you alone?” he asked.
“Yes,” I said. “I’m in my office laying on the loveseat.”
“Good.  Kneel on the floor facing the loveseat.”
“Yes, sir.” I did as he said. 
“Spread your knees apart.”
“Yes, sir.”
“Place your hand over your pussy then give it a gentle squeeze.”
I did.
“Bend forward, putting your head down.”
“Yes, sir.”
“You may be dressed, but can you feel how open you are to me.  How completely exposed you would be if I were there.”

I managed to answer yes, but my whole body was shivering.  There I was alone and on my knees and completely submissive and ready for the man who holds the key to my collar.

He didn’t keep me in the position long.  It wasn’t necessary.  In those few moments he used his power coupled with his understanding to show me my willingness and how I have truly submitted to him. To have someone who can understand me so perfectly and give us both a gift like that takes my breath away.

It lasted no more than three minutes.

It was magic.


Tuesday, April 9, 2013

It's hard to explain, but easy to live

I've tried several times to start this second blog post, to write about being a submissive, not a slave.  About having a voice at all times in my relationship with my Sir and yet knowing the power lies with him.  About the freedom and intimacy that exists in our relationship.

But every draft I write, I throw out because it doesn't sound right.

Nothing is difficult in living the dynamic we share, but for some reason I am having the hardest time putting it into words.

I refer to him as Master when we talk and when I write about him, but I am not his slave.  Usually a bottom who chooses to be a slave says "yes" once and from then on acceptance and acquiescence is assumed by the Master.  The slaves desires and needs may or may not be taken into account by the master.  This is not the way of our relationship. I am his submissive and there is a difference.

But it's not easy to explain.

Everything is done with love.  By both of us.  He sets the tone, the direction, the focus, but he is ever watchful of me, ever aware of me and my needs. He watches for how to best lead me for our mutual pleasure.

He notices me - all the time.  He watches my posture, listens carefully to the tones of my voice, is aware of any change in my eyes or expression.

Can you imagine how amazing, how intimate that is?

Nothing I do, say - or don't do or say - escapes his notice.  I cannot hide.  I do not want to.  I want to be completely bare to him, for him.  I am willing to be vulnerable and available to his love, guidance and desires.  I submit to all of that and his acceptance thrills me in a way that I struggle to explain.

But stay with me, dear reader, for I will continue to try.

Thursday, April 4, 2013

I live the fantasy

The incredible and continued success of Fifty Shades of Grey and books of the same genre suggests that the relationship between Anna and Christian is something women want, if not to live then at least as a fantasy.

I don't have to fantasize; I am collared to a wonderful sensuous loving Dom. When we are together this is our 24/7 dynamic.  In the bedroom the power exchange is more pronounced, but it is not something we put on or take off.  It is part of our relationship all of the time.

Which is just how we want it.